Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Another Delay, but you gotta love this Woman!

God could not make women this amazing... she gives me hope for the lord!
there is nothing like looking at her and seeing turkeys getting man handled and decapitated that really gets me off!
A true sex symbol of American politics while being baited with dangling meat in the background!

Lesson 2 will come tonight I promise!

Thursday, November 20, 2008

How to game with a little Magic!

If you want to know the real roots to game, you have got to start with the masters!
I know that companies have been built using this simple trick of the trade...

The next lesson comes Sat.
But for now, watch and learn how to take it to the next level....

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Revelations- Revolutions- Evolutions

Lesson 1 - Beliefs
Steps for Seduction

So let’s start with some beliefs.
A lot of the things that I want to talk about in the next month or so have to do with Sexuality/Seduction and Inner Game.

So let’s start with some Seduction stuff.
Seduction starts with the belief that it is possible.
I learned that really from Sinn and CJ.
I really learned how far you could take it from CJ, plus I am kind of a pervert.
I took that and ran with it.
Now when I teach I instill that same belief in some of my students.
And it is now that some those students have evolved many of those beliefs and theories to new levels.

So here are some of the fundamental beliefs that are helpful…
-All people (men and women) like sex.
-Most men don’t know what women find sexually attractive about men.
-Most men don’t know what women like to be thought of in terms of their sexuality.
-Most people are uncomfortable about sex. Men and women both have sexual insecurities… and they shouldn’t be insecure!

So let’s put some perspective on those beliefs before we go into some applications.

-All people like sex-
So look guys, there is nothing to be afraid of, when you talk about sex or bring it up it is a relief for people, especially women.
To put it in perspective let’s look at another aspect of game…Most people will agree that touching is a good thing to do in set right away. Mainly because it can be a useful tool, but also so you won’t end up in rapport with someone and be thinking, ‘when do I touch her?’ You already have established that you are someone who touches so you can escalate easier. So it is the same with sex. You can talk about sex the sooner the better and you won’t have to worry about transitioning to it later. For those of you structure hounds, you should be kicking yourself for not doing this, or maybe you already do. You can be direct about it or you can be indirect about it, just bring it up.

-Most men don’t know what women find sexually attractive about men.-
You always hear people talk about Nancy Friday’s book or Soap Operas, to justify women as being ‘Sluts that want to get fucked’. I wouldn’t call women that have healthy and normal fantasies or imaginations ‘Sluts’. I actually think that the voicing of a sexualized woman as a ‘Slut’ an insecurity towards sex. Men that think women are ‘Sluts’ for having sexual fantasies are men that don’t understand women. That being said, what women find attractive about men can vary in specific physical qualities, but men that understand women’s sexuality is more attractive that any ‘attraction switch’. Women have fantasies, just like men. You allow a comfortable environment for women to enjoy those fantasies, and you will be irresistibly attractive.

-Most men don’t know what women like to be thought of in terms of their sexuality.-
So what do women like to be thought of in terms of sex…or do they like it at all?
Of course they do. Thinking of women as sluts is not the best direction to take.
Take a look at mythology (the Bible included), folktales, movies, you can even see it when women dress up, put on make-up, costume parties, you can see it in just the basics of how women interact, whether she is flirting with you or she is trying to get rid of you, if she is trying to sell you something, if she is trying to convince you, and if she is trying to dissuade you.
There are 3 identities/roles/tereotypes that you should be aware of and adopt to helping your understanding of women. They also help with Seduction…

1-Women love being tempting, alluring, seductive. Women love to be chased, luring you with their beauty. Women love communicating in ways that we can’t understand. They love being the vixen, they love being the seducer, they love being the temptress… Bait is implemented by women and is where most men are complete wimps for not taking the bait and manning up and approaching.

2- Women love being taken, dominated, led, made to feel like a women…this is why it can be attractive in itself for a man to approach a woman. But really this is how attraction works. It is the male female dynamic, the female attracts, and the man carries the dominant action and approaches. The woman shows she is attracted (I believe that is what some people may call ‘A2’) and the man sees that and is dominant (I am not sure if that is what some people call ‘A3’ because the ways laid out to carry out ‘A3’ are not really dominant). Seduction, just like Attraction has a man’s role and a woman’s role, be familiar with both.

3- Women love being the ground, the stability, the mother, the nurturer, the earth. Once the roles of Seduction are established they find a home with this identity. So that can mean a relationship, but also it can mean, if a women chooses to be sexually free and adventurous, then she needs to have stability within this. This is why in the SNL frame of her being an individual is important.
Women love the transformation. They love the idea and act of putting on their make-up turning into something beautiful for the night, but they love to take that make-up off and put that identity away to come back for another time. This is because they are the ground. You may then be able to see how the frame of being discreet or keeping a secret may come into play here.

-Most people are uncomfortable about sex. Men and women both have sexual insecurities… and they shouldn’t be insecure!-

This brings up a few things.

First there will be an interest towards sex. People will react towards it if brought up properly. Because of that it can be a tool of attraction.
Here is n example-
You take the idea of a neg/tease, that was there because is gained value in a fun and playful way and it gained leverage in an interaction. But why it worked was because that was how women would communicate. It was how women communicated in a club environment or amongst close friends. So put 2 and 2 together and you have an interesting topic and you implement sexuality in your teases. It allows the topic to easily take place. Next post will have some neg/teases towards sexuality and qualifiers as well. Those alone will make your sets catapult towards a more leveraging point.

Second, if people are insecure about sex and they shouldn’t be. Set those people free, do them a favor!
But also bringing it up the idea of sex will gain a form of dominance. Plus no guys really ever talk about it with women, even in relationships…especially in relationships. If they do, they usually talk about it in the wrong way. Men don’t know how to view women sexually. But if you do, you will be the talk of the town!

Third, if people are insecure about it, it becomes an emotional experience and so it elicits rapport. Sounds confusing…well attraction is a reaction that carries little investment in emotions. It gains compliance towards push pull. Rapport takes some form of investment, that is why one of the ways towards rapport is qualification-by all means you can get rapport a lot easier than using qualification.
And one ways to do that is use the topic of sex. Because people are insecure about it bringing up the topic and having them at all compliant with it they are investing. It will put you in some heavy rapport fast. There will also be examples in next post.

Those are all ideas that should build your frame work.

How to implement these ideas will be next.
In doing so I will bring up some of my former students, and friends in and out of the community that have evolved these ideas into applications.

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Friday, November 14, 2008

Define the Roles

This is one of the fundamentals that should happen in your interactions.
When you are talking to a Woman, you need to let it be known within the first few seconds that you are a sexual person. Or at the very least the idea should be established that men and women are sexual people. This is just a logistical thing that will have many things take care of themselves if you do it right. It is something that you can escalate upon, but it also helps you bypass a lot of Attraction stuff.

You need to define the roles of Male and Female in the interaction. It is not that males and females are friends, it is that males and females are sexually beings.

Women want to feel like Women, women want to feel Sexual, women want to feel Alluring, Seductive, Tempting, Powerful, Influential…they don’t want to feel like Sluts, Slaves, Powerless, Objects and all those other things that are associated with them in terms of sex. Women like sex and like to be sexy, so use that to your advantage.

The reason why this is important is because, if you don’t have this you will be stuck in some attraction phase that means nothing.

How game was laid out way back in the day was not to get laid, it was to get attention and then a side effect was, maybe to get laid. There are plenty of guys out there that still teach and do this. Seeing that most clients don’t want to learn to lie about their lives to learn to portray something they are not, I don’t teach how to do that. I teach how to be yourself and make that work. Also I can teach you how to get laid, and not just be some over dressed metro-sexual pest that can hold set. I would rather you be a man.

The best way to do this is right from the start of an interaction. This should be established from the approach.
When I teach I say there are 6 main tools of game that are consistent at any point of an interaction.

They are- Body Language, Facial Expressions, Tonality, How you Interact, Touching, What you Say.

We mainly focus on What you Say, which is often times the least important part of the dynamic.

So when we approach we mainly have Body Language, How we Interact, and touching be our main tools.
In the Day time Touching takes a backseat and What you Say moves up.

So the higher the stimuli the more Touching has a key roles in all of this.

Let’s breakdown a few things you can do that will establish that you are a sexual person when you approach in the night time.

1-Touch on the opener. If you approach front the front touch them on the shoulder or arm, and when you touch on the arm pull slightly and lean in, then rock out.
Now if you approach over the shoulder, you can actually get closer, and you can touch around the waist. This will come up later, but the waist is where you want to be touching.

2-Get Close. The idea of locking in is not there, so you can lean against something, it is there so you can show that you are comfortable and dominant in a social interaction. So when you break people’s space and get close to them you are also showing comfort and dominance but now it has more of a sexual over tone.

3-Around the Waist. This actually comes from Captain Jack, in fact defining the roles in general comes from Captain Jack. But al while ago, before CJ became the person we knew him as he said he looked at how women show they are attracted to men is they get closer to me, lean in and all of that. But one of the ways he could tells if they were sexually attracted, was if their hips or waist area was touching him. Now this is one of the first things I teach all my students and it cuts out a lot of that attraction bullshit. So grab around the waist and have their hips touch yours, or have their belly touch your hips. If you really want to take things quick get their belly to touch yours.

4-Learn to Push Pull into Seduction. Seduction and Attraction are extremely similar. In fact when Attraction was laid out they gave all this Evo Biology BS to justify it. 90% of it was BS, but if there is something hardwired in us it is Sex. So take the idea of Push Pull, it carries over to Seduction quite well. At the beginning of your sets your sets you need to build a push pull dynamic to all the things mentioned above. Get too close,, pull back and tease them, then come in grab around the waist and pull in, push away and give a compliment, then pull in and tease.

Although it seems light… probably one of the most useful things you can gain from this is waist to waist, hip to hip.

That will blow shit open.
Seduction starts early, and it starts by defining the roles.
More in a few days about things more relevant towards the daytime, and What you Say to define the roles.

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Happiness is a warm gun

For the past 4 months I have been doing things outside of pick up that have changed my life dramatically.
I have had the great opportunity to have great teachers come my way.
In fact many of them came about through teaching pick up.
Some of these people have been bums, porn producers/actors and actresses, film writers, doctors, lawyers and spiritual icons…some multiples of those things.
I have had the fortune in my relatively short time teaching to work with many students who have ended up teaching me.
Not only in terms of pick, but overwhelmingly so outside of pick up.

In fact I have remained light on the postings because of my intense work in these other fields.

A few things have come out of this actually accentuating my initial ideals towards teaching. Mainly having to do with losing the community’s ego and need for value, deconstruction of methods, and realizing that this is a journey towards overall improvement, not just seducing women. But believe me, there will be a lot coming up about seduction, seeing that no one ever writes about it.

Let me clearly state them, because this will become the general voicing of my blog at this point.

1-Pick Up, Dating Advice, Seduction, Social Dynamics…whatever you want to call it…is easy, and it can be learned by anyone. The ‘secrets’ are always simple, it is understanding them that can get confusing. Whether you want to lay a shit load of people (which can get old) or just want to socialize better, it is not as hard as we make it.

2-My knowledge and what I have to teach should be totally public. Information that I know and learn will be posted freely on my blog. Most ‘Seduction’ information is out there already, it is just a pain in the ass to find and put it all together, so I will freely put my stuff out there. Some people who teach disagree with this,; however, I do not. I believe in product, however, nothing will replace what I do as a teacher. Therefore, the information is free, my instruction and ability to customize and personally work with others is what is being paid for.

3-No one system has all the answers. This is true for anything. As my friend in Detroit (again a student who in many ways teaches me) told me earlier today, ‘Once you have learned a method, it is time to lose that method’. I found this true for myself in many phases. I actually first learned a method, was able to use it, and then after that was able to adapt in many other methods.
Afterwards this carried over to teaching; I began to teach and realized that there were so many different ways to teach each and every person. I really have to thank my students in this respect cause it was them who taught me how to adapt and be creative to come up with different translations to some fundamental principals. Again as my friend in Detroit told me today, ‘for something to be considered a principal, it must be able to work in all forums, not just particular to a method’.

4-There are no Gurus. This isn’t to say that there are not people who have anything to offer and are superior teachers. What it is saying is all people are pretty much equal. In all honesty, most people who are teachers in this, I wouldn’t want to be. Also what it takes to be a Guru, I don’t know, but I do know that I can not teach anyone if I think I am better than they are. If I were to ever think that, I couldn’t relate with them.

5- This is a Community. Sometimes I think it is the furthest thing from it. Regardless there are many aspects to it that we don’t’ come together on. I have had the good fortune to make money at teaching this. It has at times been hard and it has at other times been easy. But because I have benefited from it so much, I need to give back. This has always been my goal, but it got to the point where it was unmanageable. So the ways I will give back from this point on, will be through this blog, and lair talks. There may be some more things coming up, but for now that is it. Either way they will have the idea of community in mind.

6- My primary purpose in teaching this, is to help anyone who is willing. I have always gone out of my way for this, but it became unmanageable. Right now I am working on a way to do this within a functioning structure, where people can gain efficient access to what I offer. What I offer in terms of information shall be as accessible as possible.

Keep your eyes peeled, this should be a fairly active next few months.
There are many new revelations from the past few teaching experiences I have had. To put it in perspective, I have taught over 20 people live in the last 10 months, there are 9 of whom I will talk about at length in the next few posts who are better than me and better than most instructors. And when I say they are good it is not something like 4 lays here and there, I mean superior in terms of social circle, social proof, SNLs, Sexual Escalation, Lifestyle, and even being resiliently happy and getting the right people you want in your life.
Also there are a ton of people who are not my students I have met through talking with Lairs that are unbelievably good, whom I have learned a great deal from.
Some of these guys are so good, I wonder why people hire ‘Gurus’ to teach them, when the answers are right in front of them.
In fact all the information is out there for free online. There are really no secrets.
But there is something different with what I can achieve with my students. I get consistent results even though the students can be very different. I don’t know many teachers that are able to do that, which is a sad reality.
Again, the fundamentals are always the root. The principals are there, and they lessons will begin on this blog soon.