Saturday, February 28, 2009

The Roadwarrior

I am not sure if you watched Professional Wrestling and you remember Hawk an Animal (actually is I recall there was a third way back when), but this is a different kind of Road Warrior.

About 2 years ago I heard of this guy that Taught Pick Up and lived in his Van, touring around the country with bands and taking pictures. I remember the guys telling me were kind of making fun of him...

I told them, "You know I have done the same thing and I actually miss it'.
(I have a 2003 Toyota Tacoma that I got with 8miles on it that now has 265,000 miles on it.
I have toured with it playing music, driven to Guatemala while living in my truck in Mexico and I have driven through at least 40 states with it, either playing music, doing photography or working on the road. I recommend it to everyone. I didn't start doing it till I was 26, it is cheap, and probably a reason why I am good at Pick Up, cause when your car breaks down in Appalachia and you need help, you make it happen. Although I envy my friends in bands who started doing it when they were 16...those motherfuckers.
You have to learn to make friends fast. In 15 days in Europe I went there knowing no one and paid only one night for a place to sleep, every other day I made a friend to crash with.

I have also train hopped and hitchhiked, but driving across America is an Amazing experience. I will also say this, living out of your truck in Mexico is a lot easier than you would think, all you people who would think it to be dangerous, I would say if you have a little bit of experience and common sense you will do fine.
I was never ripped off or had any problems there. I avoided a few of them, but Mexico is a pretty awesome country.)

In any case, I kept hearing about this guy and finally I met him when I gave a Lair Talk in Austin.
The guy came up to me (not knowing who he was) and was talking about how he had gamed all over and traveled,

I said, 'what is your name'
He said 'Jason'
I said 'no your PUA name'
He said, 'GoneSavage'

I said, 'Holy Shit, you're Gone Savage? We shoudl talk man...'

Now being GoneSavage the hippie vagabond he is we pretty much never talked. I continued teaching pick up, and he continued living the life, music, photography, the road, and women...

When I say Women you have to realize GS is pretty much a 6-12 New Lay a month guy, and he lived out of a Van. His game is interesting too, he is pretty much the only guy, I have seen take Speed Seduction and make it work. But he is beyond good at Pick Up but more importantly he lives life.

Another funny story is he knows DJ Fuji and last Sept. Fuji told me while eating at a restaurant...

'You know GS would eat other people's food'

I said, "I do that"

Fuji said, "No, he would eat food that was leftover off of other people's plates, not his friends"

I said, (having just gotten back from backpacking around Europe-Mexico and the Caribbean are WAY better by the way. Sadly I will not be biking through Cambodia and Vietnam with Village Dog, in March, but next time my man) "I did the same thing when I was just in Europe. And when you are on the road you eat what you can. the sad part is that the amount of food that we waste is pathetic, it is horrible that we throw so much away."

Fuji said, "You're crazy man"

Anyway check out
GoneSavages Blog, he just started posting on it... as Shaft told me...
"It is Awesome, he basically drives around the country photographs bands and sleeps with a bunch of women..."
GoneSavage's Blog
(on a side note, anyone who hasn't seen how amazing the USA is, drive through it, I have driven across the country over 6 times and countless times on short trips within it. The people all around the world are amazing, but in the US they are too. You can do it on $50 a day, and with that budget you can buy your own food...)

Here is GS' post that I like...maybe because he mentions me...

Lustful Sex vs Obligatory Sex: Which Do You Want?

By GoneSavage

I’ve seen a few articles popping up recently like Will the Recession End Gold Digging” and “Market for Romance Goes from Bullish to Sheepish: Are Guys with Less to Spend Less of a Catch?”

Let me tell you where all this is headed and why you are far ahead in the game of life just by finding the community – and taking steps toward improving yourself – than the guy who buys into the wine-and-dine provider model.

Here's the reality. Being comfortable and sexual with women is the primary skill you need in life. Making money (for your own livelihood), is secondary. I'm usually not so hierarchical. I think skills with women and pursuing your purpose in life should be of equal importance. But when talking about the specific monetization aspect of pursuing your purpose, you have to put ability with women on top of that.

Let’s look at a quote from a guy interviewed in the article above, he says this:

"One of the first questions is: 'What do you do? You own your own company? How many people work for you? Are you working at home or do you go to an office?' They are literally sizing you up." And, he said, he doesn't blame them -- especially if the girl is beautiful. "They can afford to be picky."

This guy carries the erroneous belief that money is the only way to attract a woman. The more he buys into this, and the more he shows off (if and when he has money) the more he is going to be seen as an easy target for manipulative women. After he’s wined-and-dined, chased-and-impressed, and otherwise deferred to her, she may have sex with him. But understand something: This is obligatory sex and not lustful sex.

When a guy like that loses his job, he suddenly has an identity crisis. He’s confused, frustrated, and convinced he has no value. His identity is based on the superficial results he gets from shallow women.

So this is my first point. As the article says, the recession is forcing people toward “looking for more creative ways to attract partners.” One result is that guys are going to turn toward the internet for solutions. And the community is going to get even larger and more publicized.

You guys got in early. You’ve already developed character, confidence, and charm. You’re far ahead of the pack with introspection and self-actualization. If you’ve gone as far as developing empathy, moral disposition, and are comfortable with your own sexuality (specifically) and the female sexuality (in general), you are drastically ahead of the masses. Congratulations.

So now my second point: Obligatory sex is what you get when you entertain her and impress her. Lustful sex comes from raw, mutual attraction and arousal.

When a woman has sex out of obligation she does not respect you. If she does not respect you, she will not be sexually fulfilled. She will be frustrated. These women make poor lovers. They fake orgasms, fantasize about other men, flirt with other men, deceptively have sex with other men, and constantly “test” you for weakness. How erotic and romantic is that?

Now, the easiest way to contrast lustful sex with obligatory sex is to point out guys that wine-and-dine. “But I found the community, and I know not to do that. I don’t buy girls drinks or dinner or anything.” But also understand this:

Entertaining, amusing, impressing, babysitting, chasing, courting, wooing, deferring to her expectations, consciously displaying your higher value, and convincing her of your status OFTEN can only lead to obligatory sex and not lustful sex.

Think about it. You’re still playing the social conditioning game.

I watched a product by the masters of social (not sexual) dynamics and it said “Women have sex to cement a moment or to blow off steam.” Hmm. I get it. What they want you to take away is this: “Guys, it’s just sex – it’s not a big deal to her, so it shouldn’t be to you.” Still, I remember this bothering me and I couldn’t quite figure out why.

What about women (and men) that have sex because of lust, desire, arousal, impulse, urge, craving, longing, yearning, carnal delight, rapture, ecstasy, joy, bliss, pleasure, satisfaction, and just because it feels great?

Don’t get me wrong. You’ve got to be positive, social, and good-humored. You’ve got to make friends and have a social life. But often the social game leads to merely getting attention that may lead to “no big deal” passionless sex. She thinks you’re cool and “sexworthy” and, hell, why not cement a moment with you? You’re pleasant and funny; why not blow off some steam with you?

This is sex from a place of obligation, not compulsion. There may be attraction, but not arousal. There may be casual pleasure, but not deep satisfaction. It’s all a subtly that neither you nor she may ever realize.

El Topo puts it this way: “What women find attractive about men can vary in specific physical qualities, but men who understand women’s sexuality are more attractive than any ‘attraction switch’.”

I concur, but I think it’s really three things wrapped in one: A man who is comfortable with his own sexuality, understands a woman’s sexuality, and has no problem talking openly and candidly about sex is a very attractive man. This is the guy that deeply arouses a woman and enjoys the passionate nuances of lustful sex.

That’s my biggest point here. Simultaneously appreciating and conveying sexuality will get you further with the opposite sex than anything else, including money and superficial social skills. Guys, this is how men and women have amazing, meaningful sex. This is how men and women have relationships based on mutual pursuit, mutual desire, and mutual gratification.

It’s also this realization that’s going to save the community from negative portrayal.

Take the manipulation out of your quest for satisfaction, and take yourself out of a game based on manipulation. Cultivate empathy, respect, reciprocity, and pursue women that want mutually gratifying lustful sex.

The way I see it, the community will thrive when we hone our focus.

My role is to help people (both men and women) understand sexuality, attain lustful sex, and maintain healthy relationships (both short-lived and long-term) based on lust, honesty, and reciprocity.

Isn't that what you really want?

Friday, February 27, 2009

The Change is up to You-

So I got this comment on my blog from an old school PUA GoneSavage (GS) the other day...
He lives in Austin and I had met him at a Lair talk there over a year ago.

This started a flurry of emails back an forth. I will write more on him later,
but his emails made me think a lot about how the community in general.
There is one thing when you hear some good rehashed self-help from people and then when you hear it from people who have some real life experience.
GS has some major life experience...

I think that what is going to start happening here in the community is the full-of-shitness of most of the people out there is going to start taking a turn.
It is not about living a life where on the surface you look good and you're dead inside, it is about being YOURSELF in the BEST way.

The Change is up to YOU, for the past year and a half I have dedicated this blog to putting out whatever FREE information I can pump out there.
Yet there are tons and tons of people out there that still haven't taken that first step and committed themselves to it.

For instance I will go to Lair Talks across the country and it happens all the time, people will come up to me and they will say,
"I love your blog, I have read the whole thing"
but still they will ask me questions asking me about opening and transitioning.
I always answer their question, but it makes me think I write about that stuff a lot on my blog.

Don' t get me wrong, I love meeting people and I love teaching people who want to learn.

What is frustrating to me is that so many people in the community find it with this hope in their eye with the inspiration to change and they buy the Magic Pill, the Silver Bullet, the bullshit ebook, you sign up for a Workshop with some fuck-off kid that you're supposed to look up to, you do everything that he says, and still you are left in the community with the same things unfulfilled as when you came in. You can open and hook sets, but after a while the glitter fades.... a little bit unfulfilled is still unfulfilled.


There are a lot of reasons why, you can blame the Instructors you can Blame the products, You can Blame the Companies... but when it comes down to it you're the only one who can be responsible for YOUR RESULTS.
You have got to take action!
The information is out there and available. You can find it FREE online. The problem is that most of it is bullshit, and a lot of it conflicts.

What you need to do is start on a consistent Plan of Action.

From my experience the people who get results are people who act. This is not people who read every game article that they can, it is not the people who buy every product out there, change come for those who take ACTION!

Everyone I know out there has been at a tipping point, you can be at one now...
if you're ready, make sure that you are ON THE LIST.
This weekend my Audio Page will be up and running with some Immediate Resources that you can put to use right away.

What I am more excited about other than just the audio, is the amount of New and Free information I am going to be putting out this month.

If you seriously want a path to Change your LIFE and not make Excuses for who you are today, then stay in contact...GET ON MY LIST
As you know the answer is never far away, you just have to learn to walk in a different direction.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

theREDstack 3 Payment Plan

This is to get you started on theREDstack 3 PAYMENT Plan.
theREDstack is a 6-8 week plan where I work with you Personally to Personalize Game just for you!

It is the MOST EFFECTIVE way to Learn Game.
Only 6 guys a Month will be admitted into this program. Lock in Your Spot Below!

Saturday, February 21, 2009

5 Things you NEED to Know to Blast into Rapport

Just like they always said their were ‘Attraction Switches’, I never knew why they never said their were ‘Comfort’ or ‘Seduction’ Switches?

One thing I will say is in the last version of theREDstack (going off the market in the next few weeks) I include Comfort and Seduction switches in there.

So for now I will give you some of the ways to get into comfort right when you’re stuck in a rut.

We’ve all been there… the conversation goes stale, you see here losing attention, you start getting reactive and soon enough, she has to ‘go to the bathroom’.
You’re left thinking… ‘what did id do wrong, what could I have done different? I had her and then I lost her.

So at moments like these, there are a bunch of things you can do.
What I am going to go over, is how you BLAST into Rapport.

I would recommend being on my LIST so that you can get more information about this as well.

Let’s first go over some psychology-
No one really knows why certain elements of attraction are irresistible to our minds, but they are!
Things like Bait, and things like Compliance work so consistently is can be frightening.

Other than that, there are certain Psychological themes that are also IRRESISTIBLE to people out there, but geared towards Rapport/Comfort.

The Themes can be continuous using tactics from theREDstack, but for now let’s keep it simple with these-

-One’s Personality
-One’s Personal Identity
-One’s Sexuality
-One’s Passions
-One’s Family life

Alright so you might be thinking, ‘this is nothing new’ but keep reading…
I will show you how to turn these into conversational pieces that will completely rework your interactions so that they will go from meet to bedroom in NEXT to NO TIME!

So let’s start with someone’s Personality-
No matter how confident someone may be, or how much they show that they are proud of who they are their Personality is left completely up to interpretation to the world they interact with.
You can use Negs/Teases to their personality by saying-
‘You know what I can tell you’re trouble, any girl that is that quick to judge I don’t know if I can talk to, besides, I bet you got better secrets than me to keep hidden…’
See this neg/tease actually brings up some frames too, notice if you can see how that works and you’ll be 2 steps ahead.

Now let’s explore one’s Personal Identity-
This is something so deep within us pretty much everyone will react to it. People fight wars over stuff like this. One’s Personal Identity is something which is way beyond what we could ever ask for. So you have got to be careful with it, this stuff is like dynamite!
So what we can do is use a Qualifier to bring up their Personal Identity, now when I mean Qualify I am meaning to challenge them-
“So I hate to interrupt you, but you looked like you were kind of out of it, are you someone who is never happy with what they end up with?”
The really important thing will come when you actually follow up with this qualifier, but more on that in a second.

Now for one of the real big ones…Sexual Identity.
This is everyone’s favorite and the one that everyone is afraid of.
I am sure you have issues about sex, that make you feel unworthy, women do too…all of them, especially the better looking ones, more on that later.
So when we are stuck, what we can say is…
“Ok you are totally a girl that, has trouble keeping a guy occupied, I mean people think you’re attractive, but once they actually are intimate with you things go south…”
This of course is alluding sex, they will definitely get it. But be careful, they are going to react, the goal is not to break them down, but to reframe them! Your next step is for you to define them sexually.

One’s Passions have always been a topic for people out there.
What people are passionate about is huge in how they can be influenced.

Just think if you have a conversation with someone and in 5 mins of knowing them you have their passions alligned with their sexual identity...this is what theREDstack does. Then what theREDstack does is it turns those passions into being the perfect match for you.

For now, here is step 1
Let me show you a new take on an old qualifier…
“If there was one thing in the world that you could do without any fear of failure, what would it be?”
(they think for a moment, and before they can really answer, you interrupt)
“Ok I can tell already, you are really someone that is a bad question to bring that up to cause you think way too much, but the reason why that is, is cause you have a lot of different thing you’re passionate about right?”

So you are kind of double hooking here. You are also beginning to frame here. You can frame even harder if you want.

One’s Family is something that I used to use for getting to comfort with pretty much every one, and I still do. I do this cause it WORKS!
Everyone has a family (good or bad) that defines them, but let’s start with a pretty cool little cold read ladder…
“You know what I can tell you are a girl that can start a lot of things that you don’t finish, you know how I know that right?”
(answer or comply)
“Cause you are used to getting too many things your way, that means you have father issues…”
(pretty much every girl does, she might argue, but it will be rare and if she does you can just say, “No, I know, but it is your confidence that I makes me say that”)
“So don’t tell me you have some hidden tattoo somewhere??? No but really I can tell you can like a lot of attention, but it just has to be given right…”

This has cold reads leading up to a definition. These are the best kinds.
Pretty much the definition at the end is the effective ingredient at the end.

In any case, that’s all for now!

If you like what you see, make sure you’re on my list and if you need theREDstack there are only a few days left!!!!

Thursday, February 19, 2009

theREDstack Full Payment

This is to get you started on theREDstack Full PAYMENT Plan.

theREDstack is a 6-8 week plan where I work with you Personally to Personalize Game just for you!

It is the MOST EFFECTIVE way to Learn Game.
Only 6 guys a Month will be admitted into this program. Lock in Your Spot Below!

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Some ineffable commentary…

So the other night Shaft told me to see the Wrestler.
He told me that is was what is going to happen to all the PUA instructors once they stop being cool.
I still haven’t seen it, but I swear to it... I will.
I watched the trailer though and since when did Darren Aronofsky make movies that weren’t all pretentious??? The Wrestler actually seems normal and good... we'll see.

One thing that keeps coming up in the PUA marketing engine is Lifestyle.

Knowing a lot of the PUAs who teach out there, I know VERY few that have a good lifestyle. Pretty much what PUAs that I know are good at it getting women, some not even good at that.
Funny story…
I had a 1-on-1 last weekend and the guy who I did it with personally knows pretty much everyone out there who teaches. He told me over and over again that the only people who he didn’t consider full of shit were Sinn, Brad P and myself. I might add a name or two to that list, but I would agree with that.

That being said, most PUAs completely suck at living life if not ALL. But they are REALLY good at faking it.

I can be included in that category for sure. But that is why people change right?

So what I have to say about lifestyle is this…
Do what you LOVE and be what you want!
I have pretty much always done that with my life. Sometimes it has worked and sometimes it hasn’t but I will say this, I don’t really know many PUAs out there that live a life like mine, they all try and fake it.

I remember a few months back when one of my friends was telling me about the 4 hour work week and how if he made all this money and set up his business he would just play music all day.
I told him that if all he wanted to do was play guitar, then he should play guitar, and worry about the business stuff to make it possible to play guitar.

He disagreed…

In another movie they said something like this-
Making money is easy if all you want to do is make money.

I don’t teach to make money, I do it cause I like working with people.
Live life guys, stop living in bullshit.

You wanna have a good lifestyle?
Surround yourself with people you love and things that you love, don’t waste time with bullshit, that’s no fun.

More and More everyone in this culture is desperately trying to be a man, and every woman a woman….but they all fall short, and want quick fixes.

Monday, February 9, 2009

Random Shit

So busy busy month and I swear to god there are some awesome changes coming to this bog and what I put out there.

For now I wanted to dump my mind out on the World Wide Web...

First off I wanted to comment on this one girl with a blog comments on my blog
It is always good shit. She made a 400 Blows reference, if she means the Truffaut film that completely turned the film world upside down in 1959 then that would make her even cooler. My favorite part of that movie is when the guy asks Antoine Doinel which hand, and then as he gets slapped, he is completely nonreactive as if the abuse is just something normal in his life. In some ways you could start film history with that movie, although I think the movies before it should never be overlooked

Second- Anyone who has gotten a stack with the past 2 months and anyone who is waiting for a stack I want to hear from you. Email me. ASAP

Third- It is good to be back in Dallas. I actually missed hanging out with all my stripper friends there. There is noting like having a small harem to come home to. Although more and more I am turning into that picture with Charles Bukowski with women lying around him. Kind of lazy...don't get stagnant...go out there and get is an adventure. Plus for the most part Bukowski was more monogamous than people led on to.

Forth-I just spent about 2 hours looking for this video on YouTube only to find it was removed, but I did find it on something else. It is a song by the Walkmen but it is on the In Bruges soundtrack, which if you like theatre style dialog it is a great movie. Who knew...what's his name can actually act...

The Walkmen- Brandy Alexander

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

How to get a number on your Lunch Break

So this last week was pretty much completely nuts.
I spent way too much time with the OTM guys.

It is funny when there are guys who have over 400 lays a piece asking you for advice.
Pretty much what happens is Algasm and I watch them and they watch us.

Soco and Jtime were both out with us too for a few nights as well.

The last night Algasm and I were out we ran into a student who is part of Sinn's 12 months to mastery program. We took him out for the last night with the OTM guys.
It was crazy and I really don't know how those OTM guys do it...I literally think the 2 of them are what every MPUA wishes they were.

One thing that I have found to be really easy lately is Hired Guns. My friend AAEddy in Las Vegas is pretty damn good with the Hired Guns as well. AAEddy is pretty damn good at a lot of shit to be honest.
AAEddy and the Student whom we will call Vagabond went out again for more adventures the next night too.
He was also out with us for the event, so I thought, ‘You know what I go out to eat pretty much 3 times a week, and I can pretty much get a number.’
All the girls in my social circle or ones I have had relationships with I all met through them being a waitresses or stripper.

In any case, making game work for you it is pretty simple.
Here is what you need,
You need some ways of showing you are Dominant
You need some ways of creating an attractive Lifestyle
You need some things to Talk About
You need to know how to handle Logistics

Now there are tons and tons of ways to make this happen but here is a simple thing you can do. This is how I get a quick number from a waitress…the rest is up to you.

GET ON THE LIST cause the audio from all of these will be going out to my list this month.

Go to your nearest restaurant and get lunch 2 times this week, go around 1pm if you can so that you are there during an off peak time.
Be a normal guy, no need to act all cocky and full of shit. A cool hair cut or designer clothes may help, but I do just fine with wrinkled and stained shirts.
I think it is only important to convey what YOU are the BEST!
Ask to be sat in a section where there is a certain girl you might like is working. (you now it is normal to request a server at a restaurant, remember, they are there to serve you.)

Sit down, order your drink.
Then ask her this...
"What is your name? I had you as a server once, so I had to request you this time."
(If they say their name ask them again anyway. let her reply, and let her go back to work. The thing is that with a waitress, you need to let her work, talk to her when she has time. If she can't stay and talk, let her go and talk to her when she comes back.)
"So when you get a moment, there has been this thing that has been bugging me...
have you ever had a long term relationship?"
(She will say yes)
"Well, it is kind of a touchy thing to bring up, but you know how when you're dating someone you have really good sex at first, but then it dies off? Well my buddy is experiencing this right now, and I was trying to explain this phenomenon to him, and he didn't get it. But why do you think this happens?
You know what, I can already tell that this was too much of a question for you..."
(give her that last push so she pushes back at you, and let her go back to work)

"Ok but seriously I bet with most people you go out with, you're totally that girl that bores your boyfriend....that's because you always date assholes"

(she will push back on this, now you have to swoop in and define it)

"What I mean is that you really attract the wrong type of guy. You are really attractive and come off as confident, but the guys that get in your life can really treat you bad. That is cause I bet once you actually commit to a guy you're very different around them and they take advantage of that."
(she should hook on this cold read, but remember, delivery is key on the cold reads)

"You know what I have always liked about girls like that women like you just need to be set free in the right ways. Like most men don't know how to treat you in the right ways. You need to be led in the right directions....but seriously what is something about you that you really like about yourself, or what you find is the most attractive thing about you."
(You need a little bit of a grounding qualifier to make this cold read stick, after she answers do this)

"You know before you go I can tell we need to talk more...go finish your tables and come right back"
(you want to be the one dismissing her, rather than her needing to leave. This isn't to be an ass or hold frame, it has a little to do with that. But it just makes things easier.)

"So when I was (tell something about yourself that is very brief, like started working where you work) it really made me realize how much I could change so many times with my life. The things which is cool about you is that I think you get what I mean. We should talk more...I like you, give me your number."

If you want to hear a bunch of Audio where I do this time and time again. Make sure you GET ON THE LIST this month! There will be a shit load of audio of this.