Friday, November 14, 2008

Define the Roles

This is one of the fundamentals that should happen in your interactions.
When you are talking to a Woman, you need to let it be known within the first few seconds that you are a sexual person. Or at the very least the idea should be established that men and women are sexual people. This is just a logistical thing that will have many things take care of themselves if you do it right. It is something that you can escalate upon, but it also helps you bypass a lot of Attraction stuff.

You need to define the roles of Male and Female in the interaction. It is not that males and females are friends, it is that males and females are sexually beings.

Women want to feel like Women, women want to feel Sexual, women want to feel Alluring, Seductive, Tempting, Powerful, Influential…they don’t want to feel like Sluts, Slaves, Powerless, Objects and all those other things that are associated with them in terms of sex. Women like sex and like to be sexy, so use that to your advantage.

The reason why this is important is because, if you don’t have this you will be stuck in some attraction phase that means nothing.

How game was laid out way back in the day was not to get laid, it was to get attention and then a side effect was, maybe to get laid. There are plenty of guys out there that still teach and do this. Seeing that most clients don’t want to learn to lie about their lives to learn to portray something they are not, I don’t teach how to do that. I teach how to be yourself and make that work. Also I can teach you how to get laid, and not just be some over dressed metro-sexual pest that can hold set. I would rather you be a man.

The best way to do this is right from the start of an interaction. This should be established from the approach.
When I teach I say there are 6 main tools of game that are consistent at any point of an interaction.

They are- Body Language, Facial Expressions, Tonality, How you Interact, Touching, What you Say.

We mainly focus on What you Say, which is often times the least important part of the dynamic.

So when we approach we mainly have Body Language, How we Interact, and touching be our main tools.
In the Day time Touching takes a backseat and What you Say moves up.

So the higher the stimuli the more Touching has a key roles in all of this.

Let’s breakdown a few things you can do that will establish that you are a sexual person when you approach in the night time.

1-Touch on the opener. If you approach front the front touch them on the shoulder or arm, and when you touch on the arm pull slightly and lean in, then rock out.
Now if you approach over the shoulder, you can actually get closer, and you can touch around the waist. This will come up later, but the waist is where you want to be touching.

2-Get Close. The idea of locking in is not there, so you can lean against something, it is there so you can show that you are comfortable and dominant in a social interaction. So when you break people’s space and get close to them you are also showing comfort and dominance but now it has more of a sexual over tone.

3-Around the Waist. This actually comes from Captain Jack, in fact defining the roles in general comes from Captain Jack. But al while ago, before CJ became the person we knew him as he said he looked at how women show they are attracted to men is they get closer to me, lean in and all of that. But one of the ways he could tells if they were sexually attracted, was if their hips or waist area was touching him. Now this is one of the first things I teach all my students and it cuts out a lot of that attraction bullshit. So grab around the waist and have their hips touch yours, or have their belly touch your hips. If you really want to take things quick get their belly to touch yours.

4-Learn to Push Pull into Seduction. Seduction and Attraction are extremely similar. In fact when Attraction was laid out they gave all this Evo Biology BS to justify it. 90% of it was BS, but if there is something hardwired in us it is Sex. So take the idea of Push Pull, it carries over to Seduction quite well. At the beginning of your sets your sets you need to build a push pull dynamic to all the things mentioned above. Get too close,, pull back and tease them, then come in grab around the waist and pull in, push away and give a compliment, then pull in and tease.

Although it seems light… probably one of the most useful things you can gain from this is waist to waist, hip to hip.

That will blow shit open.
Seduction starts early, and it starts by defining the roles.
More in a few days about things more relevant towards the daytime, and What you Say to define the roles.

1 comment:

MEGATRON said...

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