Friday, January 2, 2009

New Year's and my friend Nate

So this last month I am really not sure if I broke any records, but if I didn’t I came close. Pretty out of it lately and there has been lots of action.
In fact I told Shaft the other about a week ago I could probably break a record with lays this month. He at first agreed and then he went on to say,

“Who cares about that stuff. Look, if you hadn’t hooked up with CJ and Sinn you would not have not be in the community. You would have taken a bootcamp gotten what you wanted and lived whatever life. But you met CJ and you made it to be an excellent teacher, and you are better at helping people than most, but who cares about what the community thinks. Why prove yourself to it. Live a good life instead, but who cares about how many girls you fuck."

This made sense to me….
It is not that I don’t really care what the community thinks. And for those of you who know me, I am one of the few people out there who freely gives his time at lairs and whatever other venues there are out there. I like the idea of a community, but in order to be a good teacher I can not have the community shape me.
Nor can I expect the community to be shaped my me. The way I want to add to it is by helping who I can help and looking for whoever comes my way being a teacher to me.

So this brings me to my next issue.
In 7 days I got 4 new lays. I got them all within 7 days and I think I could have gotten a 5th last night, but life got in the way. So maybe after tonight it will be 5 new lay in 8 days. Pretty good.
2 of these girls are very hot. They are both Strippers and they both sucked in bed.
For me at least.
One was a hired gun, who also sucked in bed and the other approached me, she was good in bed. The frustrating thing is that I can usually make the girls that are bad in bed good, but I no longer want to put forth the effort. And this is why I am writing this. I have always like sex, but more sex isn't always the answer.

Back to the lays though.... I guess you could say (as Soco brags about) I close more than I open. All 4 of these girls opened me.
Either way it was a pretty good week, even month, actually a pretty good last couple of months. This has more to do with Inner Game than technique though. I have built up a life style I like and I have been doing the things that I the life so to speak. Captain Jack actually has a big rant about this.

But the more lays, don’t bring happiness. It is the happiness that brings more attraction. It is my sense of happiness with self that brings attraction. What pick up taught me, was just how to present all this in the best way.

Anyway, next week
I am going to the AVNs next week, I am shooting a bunch of models, and testing a shit load of models, some of them in Playboy, but really who the fuck cares.
One thing I know about models is they pretty much always suck in bed.
My point in this, is that I smoked ass this week.
In fact so have many of my friends. Jtime and Algasim both.
Sinn has too, the other night, when I was with the Israeli he was with a very unSinn-esque hottie. I guess he has laid a bunch of models lately too. She was more my type than his.
But I will say if we want to have a competition of models, I would think that it would be hard to beat me, since I kind of have a social circle of them.
Also in cold approach all I have to do is tell them what my next shoots are and it is a matter of logistics at that point.

Jtime and Negatron have helped me with, is living a good life. One of the things that I like about Soco, is what he does is make a lifestyle that he likes. There are a lot of women in his social circle, but that is the life he wants. I think the myth that we all buy into in this community is that we think that those MPUAs we all look up to have this amazing life.
So yesterday I was pretty out of it. I have actually closed a Stripper, then because the sex was so shitty, I called the Israeli to pick me up and had sex with her again.
How’s that for fucked up…
I got a ride home from the Israeli, she is for the most part a very nice woman, and has her shit together. Why she likes me so much I don’t know. But she has pretty much talked me into moving to Israel, telling me that Israeli women would love me.

I get home and my friend Nate calls me. Nate tells me he finally hooked up with this girl he has like for a long time. Nate is not a PUA, but knows what I do.
I tell him about my situation and he says,

“You know that one girl you brought down that one time, she was good for you.”

Nate has known me for my whole life pretty much.

“She is just your type. But you’re like this kid that got a new toy and now that toy has gotten old. You know you can get all these women and now you’re at the point where you’re bored with it. Getting another new toy doesn’t really work.”

I agree with him on this. In fact every PUA I know that is honest with me goes through a phase where they get really good, then they plateau. They will suck for months even, and then they get their mojo back. It is all an inner game thing really. The PUA community usually answers this by getting more ass, or trying to. Now I will offer a different answer.
But Nate is right, I gained nothing from having sex with all those strippers. I gained nothing from KFPing them. I only gain something from them if I like the life I am living.
Nate goes on…

“You need to use your superpowers for good not evil, why don’t you focus on stability and less ego. There is nothing wrong with getting laid, and there is nothing wrong with getting laid a lot, but if you are doing it to make you happy then that is bullshit. Happiness comes from detachment not attachment. Right now your identity is completely wrapped up in the Pick Up Community. When you started in it, it was fun to be able to meet and fuck all these women who you never thought you could. Then you were able to, and you got bored with it. You met some girls you liked, you pissed them off by being an instructor in it, or you had too many going at one time.
Then you started meeting all these people who were living good lives who you taught, and you changed. Since Oct you are getting laid like crazy again. Who cares, you have a ton to offer the world, I know you, use the super powers for good not evil.”

This is the thing with Nate…he is a wise man. I know a lot of wise men, and am very fortunate to have them in my life.
I always like it when I have someone in front of me who gives good advice. I always want to milk more out of them.
So Nate went on, and this is where I think everyone can benefit from this all.
He said,

“Look when you look at certain religions they have all these metaphors for being happy or unhappy. But one idea I always liked, was that if you were someone who had a broken spirit your whole life would revolve around dysfunction. That is all it could do. That dysfunction would manifest itself in many ways, none that would show your spirit is fucked. You might have bad people in your life, be in debt, have shit relationships, be a victim to the world.
But really you got to fix yourself first. Fixing yourself has nothing to do with what you have, it has to do with what you do. In your case, you are part of this world where how much you get laid gets you money. Now your motives are completely different from when you started this who journey. Like I said at first you just wanted to meet good women. Now you want to make money and prove yourself over and over again to who?
The thing is, because you have done it so much you have manifested a pattern in it. You know how to solve that pattern. And you know that pattern has nothing to do with women, that is how it is showing itself. But that is where you will have to start.”

In any case, this is what I have always liked about the people in my life.
In the Community and out of the Community, I have managed to build good relationships with people and have some pretty amazing moments to guide my way.


JSmooth said...

Great Post! Very good lessons to learn from this.

p said...

I completely agree with what you're talking about here. Inner game is so important, because it's what you're talking about with your students you like.

They have a life they are enjoying - they must have an inner game - a commonality - a thread - that ties all areas of their life together. So if someone wants to drop out of the community for a while it's easier if you have strong inner game, and just also easier to get back in to the flow if that seems like the right thing.

Basically, acceptance and incorporation of inner game is another way of saying inner happiness is where it's at. One does not need to look for external sources of happiness or validation.

swagger said...

you need to work on ur writing & ur spelling sucks too, ever heard of a feature called spell check? Yes you have to use this more in the new year.

El Topo said...

You gotta love Swagger, keep trying buddy one day you'll get your way.

Love you too!

swagger said...

LOL Steve, I learnt perseverance from you :)) I havent checked on ur blog in a while but I thought I should look it up and get some 'free' value. It appears the last post that got more than 5 comments from your readers was one on entirely on me..Now I really have to visit your blog and pay more attention :)

PS: Mehows Insider on you totally rocks!!! So much 'value' on that! Its called Get The Girl for a reason..what did you end up doing? Kindly deconstruct..Thanks

Much Love

swagger said...

ohh BTW say hi to DJ for me, boy has come a long way since 06, back in the day he had short hair, amazing vocal projection & an avid learner. I think he had just left the Navy then, didn't know he was working for Mehow.

criz said...

Good post - "The frustrating thing is that I can usually make the girls that are bad in bed good, but I no longer want to put forth the effort."

Any way you can elaborate on that ? :)

criz said...

Good post -

"The frustrating thing is that I can usually make the girls that are bad in bed good, but I no longer want to put forth the effort."

Any way you can elaborate on that ? :)

Fawn said...

So, here is my theory: Swagger is a chick you fucked who got bitter! because usually men are not that petty!
..but if I am wrong, you should be philanthropic and give "him" some free lessons because this "man" needs to get laaaiiiid...BIG time!!!

swagger said...

Fawn, I am not sure if your master can teach me to lay hot chicks, tubby fat ones won't do. When your master figures that out & when he is filled with less psychobabble I am all down for paying to listen to him :))